Sunday 3 July 2016

Meditation and Step 11

Meditation has been part of my life with varying degrees of practice for about 20 years.  It's interesting that Step 11 talks about using prayer and meditation to increase our conscious contact with our Higher Power.

Someone once told me (Lawrie C?) that prayer is where we ask for guidance, meditation is where we receive guidance.  I'm working with a sponsee and she is learning to listen to herself, her body, and slowly finding her own Higher Power.  Part of our process has been for me to share some of what I have learned about meditation.  I put some notes together for her and I thought I'd post them here too for safekeeping.  They remind me why I meditate and how.



Meditation Resources


Mindfulness helps us slow down, feel what we feel and accept it.  We gather all our attention and energy to ourselves, whether through anchored meditation (usually focused on our breath), walking meditation, guided imagery meditation.  And then we can look at giving our attention and energy to others (loving kindness meditation is an example).


Best practice is to be seated, with your head, neck and spine straight.  If you lie down, you are more likely to fall asleep as you start to relax.  Do not use any of the meditation recordings while driving…


Mindfulness can be done anytime, anywhere, even for a few seconds.  We focus on what we are doing, the feel of it in our body, our movement, our breath.  You can practice mindfully brushing your teeth.  Or eating.  Or getting dressed.


Remember that it is totally expected for your mind to wander off – planning, judging, whatever.  This is “monkey mind”.  Just name what you’re thinking and return to your breath.  Nine thousand times if necessary.  You cannot do this wrong!  Be gentle with yourself as you would be with a curious puppy.


Easy practices, multiple times in the day or whenever feeling stressed: 


4 count breath:  breath in through your nose on a 4 count, breath out through your mouth on a four count.  Visualize you are drawing a box with your breath --  across the top for four counts breathing in, down the right side as you breath out for four counts, back across the bottom for 4 breathing in, then up the other side to close the box, breathing out.  Repeat for as long as you want.


Simple Grounding:  Slow down, feel yourself in your body.  Look at all four corners of the room around you, one at a time, slowly.  You are here.  You are present.  Tell yourself this!


Simple Grounding 2:  Slow down, feel yourself in your body.  Your feet on the ground, your bottom on the seat, your spine stacking vertebrae on top each other, your head on top of your neck, shoulders relaxed, hands relaxed.  Breathe slowly and naturally.  Then, mentally look for five things you can see, one after the other.  Then, four things you are touching.  Three things you can hear, two things you can smell, one thing you can taste in your mouth.  Repeat as desired.


Other grounding exercises: 


·         ground yourself, feet on the floor, feel the earth supporting you.  Press your hands on your thighs, pressing down.  “I am here.”  Alternatively:  Place your hands over your heart, pressing gently.  “I am here.”  “I am loved”.


·         Stand on your feet, in a posture with dignity, feeling the ground beneath you (doesn’t matter if you’re on the second floor!).  You are being supported.  Rock gently, moving your weight from the balls of your feet, to your heels, and back.  Sway gently from side to side, shifting your weight from hip to hip.  Breathe. 


·         Walking:  slowly, feel your weight transfer from your heel to the front of your foot, witness how your weight shifts forward as you move through space.  Breathe.  Feel the soft movement of air on your skin as you move forward.


Simple affirmations:  I am here.  May I be safe.  May I be happy.  May I be free from inner and outer harm.  May I be healthy.  May I live with ease.  May I be surrounded by loving kindness.


Books: anything by John Kabat-Zinn, Sharon Salzberg, Tara Brach, Pema Chodron, Thich Nhat Hanh


Podcasts:  Tara Brach on iTunes or at www.tarabrach.com.  Her book Radical Acceptance is also great.  The Meditation Podcast (Jesse and Jeane Stern) on iTunes.


App:  Insight Timer (free on iTunes):  both for the timer which is great.  Explore the Guided Meditations too – quality and subject matter varies widely.


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